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Considering what your preferences are for your departure from this earth, is not something that even crosses some people's mind to think about and plan for. Dealing with the passing of a close friend or family member is a very tough time, there is so much to consider and if you haven't had a discussion with them before hand, or if they haven't expressed their wishes, is can be unsettling to think what they would have wanted. This is why, even though its not a very nice thing to discuss or think about yourself, it really is a good thing to do, if for nothing else it will help the people who are left behind to safely know they are making the right decisions and giving you the send off you really wanted.
The first thing to consider really is whether or not you wish to be buried or cremated and this really is all down to personal preference. It could be that your family have a plot in a local cemetery and you are firm in the belief that you all wish to be buried together in the family plot. However, in it becoming more and more the norm these days to opt for cremation. This is not just because it is in most cases a cheaper alternative to burial, but because people think it's more environmentally friendly, and also, given the fact more and more of us are donating our bodies to the Donor Register, that cremation is the best ends to our remains.
What ever you decide to go with, one thing is for certain and that is that you will be leaving behind people who care for you and who will require time to deal with your death. They can do that through so many different means and cremation offers more options than burial. With cremation you are free to decide how you want the ashes shared, scattered, housed in a memorial garden or even buried either on land or sea. There are so many different cremation urns to choose from that you are guaranteed to be able to locate a style and purpose to suit your requests. This is something that you can even buy in advance in preparation for your departure, which again will help the people you are leaving behind as they wont have the expense to bare and also they will know that your ashes are being kept in a cremation urn that you have chosen.
Whether you are looking for a metal urn that you can have an engraved with a personal message or extract from a meaningful poem, you can choose from pewter, brass and silver. Alternatively other materials like ceramic, glass, wood or even marble, all available in different styles ranging from a sleek modern, non-urn looking vessel through to the typical and traditional urn shape, all in different colours and carved designs.
If you are not planning to have it displayed, and would prefer to have it housed in a memorial garden that people can access and pay their respects, then a decorative urn may not be for you. You can get more simpler cremation urns for this option and this will obviously impact the cost. You can also get biodegradable urns now, ones that are designed for a burial at sea which will float for a while before sinking and degrading into the seabed.
Whatever you decide, it is worth bringing this issue to your attention, if not for your own peace of mind, but also for those you will be leaving behind that need to deal with the arrangements. Cremation urns are widely accessible on line and therefore taking some time to review what is available will allow you to make an informed decision and choose a urn that suits your personality. Even if you opt not to buy one now as you feel its too much of a morbid thing to do, at least you can indicate to others what your preferences would be for both the type and style of vessel you would prefer, but also for the entire service you would like.
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